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Seven months on Hard Mode + my tips

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by mv8652, May 18, 2016.

  1. mv8652

    mv8652 Fapstronaut

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    Today marks seven months since I last experienced porn, masturbation, or orgasm.

    At this point, not masturbating anymore is my lifestyle--as normal for me as masturbation used to be. I'm far from being in flatline. In fact, I never even had one, nor have I had any wet dreams. I awaken with wood, and I still have all of my normal desires and libido. I just don't consider doing anything about them anymore. I loved and enjoyed masturbation for years, but I've learned to love and enjoy life without it. My body and mind have adapted to its absence, and I'm enthusiastic about continuing the hard-mode NoFap lifestyle. Who knew that not fapping could be so much fun? Fapping has become an unnecessary and meaningless option, and life without it is good. If a man can change that about himself, he can change anything!

    We males have a primal desire to masturbate, but I've also always had some deep instinct to want to quit it. I would even fantasize about never getting off. During my teens I couldn't last longer than two weeks without it, but later I had a few longer streaks up to 41 days. Eventually, I found NoFap.com, and it motivated me to make a highly enthusiastic (even euphoric) commitment to long-term cessation. That was in May of last year, when I was already 15 days into a streak on my own. After more than four months, I decided that I was fully rebooted and could return to limited occasional masturbation and keep it under control. During the month that followed, I allowed myself three masturbatory orgasms, but they only taught me how much I missed the benefits, self-discipline, and pride that I got from total abstinence. So, I happily returned to the new streak that has now lasted seven months. At first, I left my new goal unspecified, but I soon committed to go at least a year. That commitment gave me a new rush of dedication and enthusiasm for NOT doing what I don't do anymore, and I love it!

    To say that it’s been life-changing would be an understatement. I could rattle on about all of the benefits that are usually mentioned (motivation, discipline, social confidence, etc.), all of which are real, but my biggest benefit is moral. I had no moral objection to simple masturbation, but I did have one to my use of pornography. Although I was not nearly as addicted or dependent as some, I could feel the call of increasingly bizarre fetishes, and I knew that none of it pleased God. I thank Him for NoFap and for the chance to have a clear sexual conscience. In addition to that, I've found significant benefits in weight loss and muscle gain from new dedication to exercise and nutrition that have come with increased self-discipline.

    To summarize: Every man owes it to himself to give hard-mode no-PMO a good long try. I'd hate to have lived my life without having done so. It's one of the best things I’ve ever done.

    So, finally, here are my tips to those who would pursue the NoFap lifestyle:

    1. Be prepared to leave your comfort zone. Sudden sexual abstinence can be uncomfortable at first, but the benefits are worth every minute of it.

    2. If you aren't excited and enthusiastic about quitting, you aren't ready to succeed at no-PMO. When the urges come, you've got to want to contain more than you want to release. The good news is that you can cultivate excitement and enthusiasm. You'll know when you're really ready.

    3. Know your WHY. Always keep in mind your reasons for wanting to quit and review them every time you feel like giving in.

    4. Don't try to fight the physical and mental urges. They're a natural part of male life. Fighting them only frustrates you further. Instead, relax and let them wash past you harmlessly like waves on a beach. You'll feel them, but each one will last only minutes and then be gone, never to return. There will be others, but this is how you learn to ignore them until they no longer even faze you. Nobody ever died from an unsatisfied urge!

    5. Take it one day at a time! Ninety days seems like forever, but anybody can go without an orgasm for just one day. That's all you ever have to do at any one time. Each morning, when you first awaken, promise yourself out loud several times, "I will not masturbate TODAY!" Make it into a cheer or a chant and mean it. Don’t worry about tomorrow until tomorrow.

    6. Constantly look for new things to love about your life without fapping. You'll find them! There really are things that are better than self-made orgasms. When you find enough of them, it becomes easy.

    7. Get and give support! We're put on this earth to help one another. Commiserate regularly with your many brothers at NoFap, and comment, like, and subscribe to them on YouTube. Not everyone can tell their friends about what you're doing, but do so if you can. True friends will respect and envy you. Some might be inspired to join you!

    8. It’s a process. Rome wasn't built in a day. If you relapse, get back on the wagon immediately and don’t use it as an excuse to binge. While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying.

    Thanks for reading. I hope that this helps someone.
     
    Last edited: May 22, 2016
  2. Child of God

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    Nice work @mv8652! I'm so glad you were able to achieve your goals so quickly. Thank you for sharing your tips, it is always better to hear it from someone for whom they actually helped. Truely all of us must envy your new life!
     
  3. Twitch Mechanics

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    Very inspirational, I really need those advice.
     
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  4. Ten

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    So well written and really awesome tips shared. I'm happy for your healthiness and thankful for your sharing. May much joy, success, and love encircle your life!
     
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  5. RetroMike

    RetroMike Fapstronaut

    Awesome post @mv8652! This post truly inspired me to keep on keeping on being PMO free. Right now I'm almost to Day 2 and this post clearly reminded me of WHY I'm doing this and that is to become the best version of myself and to have an amazing life that is not behind a computer or phone screen masturbating to porn. Thank you and I wish you the best of luck on your journey!
     
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  6. sgnture444

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    EXCELLENT JOB ON YOUR:
    Seven months on Hard Mode + my tips. Lots of right decisions and self-discipline!
    :cool:
     
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  7. maske

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    Awesome, man. I love this: "While momentarily straying off-course delays one's arrival at his destination, it doesn't send him back to his point of origin. The only men truly at day zero are those who are no longer trying."
     
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  8. programer

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    7 months is a great archievement. Keep going on. Let's make it 8 months.
     
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  9. quit4life

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    Congrats man. Hope I could reach atleast 10+ days someday.... Don't know when yet...
     
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  10. g2stop

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    I also hope I can get above 10 days, I did 90 days once but have fallen back. Reading stories like this helps a lot though.
     
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  11. mv8652

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    Done! Today makes eight months! I will be sending my eight-month post to this forum as soon as I get it written.
     
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  12. DannyCool

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    I love your focus. These two stand out for me. One shows how not to be scared of urges while the other shows regular determination. It is great the way after your first streak you were convinced of the merits of continuing without getting caught up in the distractions again. Thank you for sharing this positive and wonderful story.
     
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  13. AW23

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    So I have a question. How are the urges after reboot?
     
  14. mv8652

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    As long as you are a healthy male (and not in flatline, which I have never had), you will have urges, but you learn to live with them easily, which makes them seem much lighter. See my tip number 4 in the original message in this thread.
     
  15. AW23

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    I agree with you man and I was just thinking this earlier. As healthy males we all get horny from time to time and have the urge to masturbate and have sex. It's completely natural. But I think people who do not have porn addictions can get rid of the urge a little easier than we can.
     
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  16. I also dont have problem with Masturbation
    I was thinking about M once each mouth ( if need , or if no sex ... or stuff like that ) after mi 120 hardmode challenge .
    But with ''nofap challenge '' now i love when its hard , get out of mi confort zone . so No MO is alright :) i dont need it

    im just afraid about '' fast ejaculation during sex '' , and think M can help to ''cure'' and train ( but this is also in the head ) . ^_^ ,
     
  17. mv8652

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    Exactly! An urge is a natural product of our sex drives, but the cravings of a dopamine-addicted mind adds a whole other layer of intensity on top of it.
     
  18. AW23

    AW23 Guest

    Yes! That's why I am not dwelling on the urges no more. I understand they are normal and completely controllable after reboot.
     
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  19. lethalgunman99

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    thanks for the post. It really helps
     
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  20. 82JP

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    WOW!! 8 months that's something I would like to achieve as well, well done!! I like your approach to the whole thing, I wasn't sure that not masturbating for an extended period of time was possible, but you have proved me wrong , I like the taking it one day at a time and if relapse happens not bingeing also not fighting urges but letting them wash over you. Thanks for the advices and sharing your story.
     
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