Rebirth

Performance stress?

 

What you experienced was a natural result of the years of PMO conditioning of your brain. Your brain perceives sex the way you've been processing it on screen. In addition to the psychological conditioning, you've also desensitized your penis through excessive M and most likely a 'death grip' which reduces sensation during normal vaginal sex so it can't compare to your hand. Abstaining from PMO has led many to reverse this problem as the sensations return and sex with a real individual begins to feel better not just physically but emotionally as well. All the best

 

Biki,

Thanks for your honest post. I will share a few things with you about sex that I feel you should no. I am considerably older than you (42) and grew up at time before internet porn. So I can't relate totally to your experience of being 9 years with PMO and no actual sex and also when i do PMO it is very gently not 'death grip" not sure what your experience is... I will say that for me sex has always been better because it is human connection with another person. But a couple of things you should know. The first few weeks or even months with someone new is not really what sex will be like going forward. In my experience sex gets so much better as you get to know each other each get bonded and create a loving connection. For me the most connected sex is through the heart. The mind and the cock are important but the heart is in the middle and ties those two together. when you are connected at the heart with your partner there is no PMO in the world that can compare to that. So, stay the course keep working with it. She sounds like a good person as she is willing to work with you through your struggles. If you develop a close bond with her and trust and love, sex will be very different than... "getting off".... with love sex becomes cosmic... stay strong dude.

 

Your sensitivity to pleasure will improve with time.

But for the love of Whoever, why would you assume it's safe to use porn again when it was the CAUSE of your problems in the first place? This is so sad. I've been collecting stories of guys who healed serious porn-induced sexual dysfunctions and then went right back to porn and recreated them. This shows that people really need education on how porn conditions sexuality and how brain-training matters. It's not an accident that you got PIED. And it wasn't an accident that you recovered. Further improvement is dependent on consistency.

 

Great post dude. See, M&P is Death. Unless you Abstain from Pmo, You shall perish. I am on day 197. My life has radically changed. Watch out for my day 210 day post. Ive got so much to the fapstronaunts.

 

You say this, but your PMO counter is currently at 127 days.