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Death Grip - will NoFap help?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by andarf, Jan 30, 2016.

  1. andarf

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    Hello all. This is my first post an the issue is serious for me.

    I'm 26, and I have a death grip. That means i literally cannot cum during sex and this feels AWFUL. I've been fapping since 14/15. During this period I developed a strong fap habit:

    - always right hand
    - always sitting
    - tight grip and ultra fast tempo
    - extremely tight strain of my leg muscles (impossible to do while penetrating a girl)

    During my life I has a lot of sexual intercourses. With girl I only used to cum during realyy fast blowjobs/hadjobs (she was basically jerking me off with my penis in her mouth while I was laying on my back and tightening my leg muscles), but I really want to cum in a "normal way" during sex. I've begun a NoFap challenge a week ago and i wonder how long will it take to regain my sensitivity and cum during normal sex. Is it even possible?

    I could really use some help and support guys.
     
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  2. ArnoldHeiligen

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    You have pushed it so far that it has become the problem. Though woman must be crazy on you cause you make them orgasm before you do. Most guys cum after a minute of penetrating vagina and that dissatisfied women. You got something special. Though stop fapping, you have enough of it if you did it for so long. Just stop it and have real amazing experiences with real women.
     
  3. andarf

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    What I didn't write is that I have a girlfriend now, and despite no fapping, I'm enjoying a real great sex, but I'm not even close to come. I simply DON'T orgasm. So I decided to keep having sex but stopped fapping and I want to make myself so blue-balled, that I will cum during sex. I need to regain my sensitivity and retrain my brain by NoFap.
    I'm lucky, because my girl is a really supportive woman and my death grip is not affecting her self-esteem.

    I will keep going, I'm already reading death grip overcoming success stories, and it seems like it gets better after a month. I'm motivated. I quitted porn and masturbating a week ago. Wish me luck!
     
  4. ArnoldHeiligen

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    I wish you all the best, keep going it is hard but it is worth it.
     
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  5. RedEd101

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    Have you ever had a break from fapping before?
     
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  6. andarf

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    Yes, I believe 10 day's was the longest. Now I'm aiming at "as long as it needs to be". I know it will be hard (I feel big urge right now) but I'm really desperate to overcome my Death Grip and enjoy orgasming in a normal intercourse. My first goal is "NoFap February".
     
  7. Pirlo23

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    Hello Man, I can give you some advice. I have the same problem as you, but it can be solved. I went 40 days with no sex and no masturbation and my sensitivity was almost recovered. If you're going to do this (bare in mind you will relapse many times before you can do this for a long time) then you should try to see how to do it without a lot of suffering. If you think than having sex is making relapse happen, then you should do this without sex. And that is tough for you and your girlfriend. Buit it works miracles belive me, talk to her and she will understand.
     
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  8. andarf

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    Thanks! TBH, I don't perceive sex as a relapse (because I don't cum, so it doesn't "count"), it's more like a training and checkout, so I want to keep having sex.
    E.g. my last fap was on 22th Januray, since then I had sex twice, but I still feel really big urge to fap, because I didn't cum during sex. So I don't feel like having sex is having an affection on a challenge.

    If I may ask, what were your strongest fap habits?
     
  9. I've read plenty of stories where guys have said their death grip has been cured b/c of nofap. You will get your sensitivity back, just be patient.
     
  10. andarf

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    Do you have any links?
     
  11. What you've experienced is not that uncommon, porn/masturbation induced sexual dysfunction is the #1 reason why people start nofap.

    My advice is cut out ALL masturbation and porn so your brain can heal. It might take a few months to fully heal but you will heal. The problem is in your brain, not in your pants, and the brain is good at healing itself if given a few months rest.
     
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  12. RedEd101

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    There's loads mate. Just search "delayed ejaculation" in search bar. Tonnes of success stories on 'your brain on porn' website too.

    From what I've read, nofap is absolutely the best cure for decreased sensitivity. Just stay away from your Johnson for a few weeks and see for yourself..

    I know it's difficult. I'm on day 38 and get the urge to jerk all the time. You have to think of the long term gain, rather than short term hit from fapping.
     
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  13. andarf

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    Thank you guys for all the support. I feel now that I have chosen a good way to overcome my problem! I feel really motivated to overcome my death grip!
     
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  14. shanky kumar

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    bro its good u started . I an 17 year old and had been doing from 3 years almost daily . It feels too bad when you fap( just after fap) i was extremely sad earlier tried no PMO many times about 50 relapsed on a fourth day . Made a diary entry and lasted till 23rd day. pmo has intensity to rewire our brain. But this time i promise you all guys that i will chase my goal, and you should tooooo, after life has different kind of meaning for those who have a goal .Now I study whole day and dont get time for pmo, you too find a hobby . ALL THE BEST BRO
     
  15. andarf

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    We can do it buddy!
     
  16. nomercy333

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    I guess doin edging also comes under MO. Rebooting means when you are not doin sex or PMO. May be you can read more and be more specific. What you are planning for. And yes you are on the right track. I have just opposite problem Because of the PMO. I am on my 15thday, doin 90 days chalenge.
    All the best buddy !
     
    Last edited: Feb 8, 2016
  17. CptCane

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    My PE is so bad I would take DE right now. I just want to see the satisfaction on my wife's face again. She hasn't O'ed in a long time because of my problem. And she only likes to O during PIV. So I have some work to do. She tells me to control my mind. How in the crap do you that?
     
  18. nomercy333

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    there are severe techniques like squeezing, start stop, breathing exercises, kegel exercise, thick condoms! Make full use of your best sex position and these will somehow help ad i have seen all these techniques written everywhere. You can also try some medicine if u r willing too. But the main question comes in my mind is, is this problem of yours is bcz of PMO or something else? I am 23 years old and doin MO since 14 years old. But in less frequency when i was in college at The age of 18. I indulge in heavy PMO bcz of my long distance relationship. I had sex at the age of 19 when i first experience PE. And in the second shot i faced problem in getting my D hard followed by DE. Right now i am on my 15th day and i am on 90 days challenge.
     
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  19. CptCane

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    I tired mandelay. Went completely limp after 3 min. Bad idea. I really don't want meds but more open to them now. Going to try condoms next. If I get a chance. Whenever next is. She's pretty turned off to see right now because she says it's a waste of time. I can't blame her.

    I'm on day 10 of hard mode
     

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