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Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Lucky1, Apr 5, 2016.

  1. Lucky1

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    Currently reading a book everyday that has value for me, and decided i'll share it's wisdom on these forums daily for the community!

    Books called 'Daily Reflections for Highly Effective People' by Stephen R. Covey.

    I'll try and do this everyday!

    "Highly proactive people recognize their "response-ability" - The ability to choose their response.

    They do not blame circumstance, conditions or conditioning for their behavior.

    Their behavior is a product of their own conscience choice, based on values, rather than a product of their conditions, based on feeling"
     
  2. Lucky1

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    "Reactive people focus on circumstances in which they have no control.

    The negative energy generated by that focus, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their circle of influence to shrink.

    Proactive people focus their efforts on the things they can do something about.

    The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging and magnifying, causing their circle of influence to increase"

    Personal notes:

    Negativity attracts negative people, once you see your attitudes change, your passions will re-allocated towards doing tasks you've wanted to do for a long time, for example playing guitar or starting a business.

    That's the positive shift, and spending time on something you can change. You'll start changing what you talk about, and see you don't fit in with your current associates and at the same time you'll attract new people.
     
  3. Porn Free Wanderer

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    Thank you for posting these. I've been working on changing my attitudes. I've had some success, but I started form a very low base (I was a *very* negative person a few years back). I still have some work in front of me.
     
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  4. Lucky1

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    Thank you for your thanks :3, we all do!

    The first step to achieving something is knowing and committing to achieving it.

    "The power to make and keep commitments to ourselves is the essence of developing the basic habits of effectiveness"
     
  5. Lucky1

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    "Look at the weakness of others with compassion, not accusation.

    It's not what they're not doing, or should be doing that's the issue.

    The issue is your own chosen response to the situation, and what you should be doing.

    If you start to think the problem is "out there" stop yourself. That though is the problem"
     
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    "You can't become principle-centered without first being aware of your paradigms and understanding how to shift them, and align them with principles.

    You can't become principle centered with a vision of, and a focus on the unique contribution that is yours to make"
     
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    "How very different our lives are when we really know what's deeply important to us, and keeping that picture in mind, we manager ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most."
     
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    Big relevant one today!

    "In developing our own self awareness many of us discover ineffective scripts, deeply embedded habits that are total unworthy of us, totally in-congruent with the things we really value in life.

    We are responsible to use our imagination and creativity to write new ones that are more effective more congruent with our deepest values and with the correct principals that gives our values meaning"
     
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    "Do you ever consider how ridiculous it would be to try to cram food on a farm - to forgot to plant in spring, play all summer, and then cram in the fall to bring in the harvest?

    The farm is a natural system. The price must be and the process followed.

    You always reap what you sow, there is no shortcut"
     
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    "Happiness can be defined, in part at least, as the fruit of the desire and ability to sacrifice what we want now for what we want eventually"
     
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    "When you are coming from a principled centered paradigm, you are not being acted upon by other people or circumstances. You are proactively choosing what you determine to be the best alternative. You make your decision consciously"
     
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  12. Lucky1

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    "So often the problem is in the system, not in the people.

    If you put good people in bad systems , you get bad results.

    You have to water the flowers if you want them to grow."
     
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    What if you focus on a circumstance you think you can control but actually can't?
     
  14. Lucky1

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    I'm not sure which quote your referencing exactly but number 11 is probably the one you are talking about "When you are coming from a principled centered paradigm, you are not being acted upon by other people or circumstances. You are proactively choosing what you determine to be the best alternative. You make your decision consciously" So i'm going to assume.

    It's talking about the fact that you're coming from a 'principled centered paradigm' so you know what your values are and what you value in life. If somebody imposes there circumstances on you and you don't believe in them, then there will be no transaction, which may be 'The best alternative.' but ultimately, you make your decision consciously, so you could not make the best decision for yourself.

    If you're speaking in general terms, it becomes a more philosophical question in nature. Do we control our own reality or are we the subject of the circumstances of our births? Our genes we cannot, but we still have the same number each in our DNA's.

    The simple answer is you've wasted your time and probably shouldn't focus on circumstances in which you can't control. But really, what circumstances do we not control in a 1st world country? The government tax rates, social political policy, we arguably have a say in that. If we all consciously focused on over throwing a ruling class, which there has been many historical events that suggest such a feat isn't impossible.

    Personally i believe that very few circumstance you focus on you can't actually change, very few, especially if they are personal ones, eg where you live, who you associate with, what you think of your self worth, I believe all these can be changed. If they are public circumstances, eg the street you live in is dirty, everyone treats everyone else badly, it requires a public consciousness to change. Even though it maybe possible, though slightly to achieve it through a private individual means.
     
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    "personal leadership is not a singular experience. It is the on going process of keeping your vision and values before you, and aligning your life to be congruent with those most important things. Integrate your personal mission statement into your life, start with the end goal in mind."
     
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    "The most effective way i know to begin with the end in mind is to develop a personal mission statement or philosophy or creed.

    It focuses on what you want to be (character) and to do (contributions and achievements) and on the values or principles upon which being and doing are based.

    Because each individual is unique, a personal mission statement will reflect that uniqueness, both in content and form."

    Personal notes:

    Many of us, like a business plan, set our own plans on how we would like to see ourselves in the future. It's why we're here.

    We frequently see on this forums people doing the same in there journals and introduction posts what they want to be, do and hopefully their values too.

    It's best not to loose sight of that, because that's were we want to be.

    A good quote pops into my mind and it's true despite its appearance in a fantasy novel.

    "Past present and Future are the same. If you believe in the future presently, it will inevitably come to past"
     
  17. Lucky1

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    My own today to break up the slabs of text.

    "To know and not to do, is not to know"
     
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    "Fear is the mindkiller, Fear is the little death that comes before total obliteration. I will face my fear. Permit it to pass over and through me, and then turn my inner eye towards it path. Where it has gone there will be nothing, only I will remain"
     
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    "If you are an effective manager of your self, your discipline comes from within.

    It's a function of your independent will. You are a disciple, a follower, of your own deep values and their source."
     
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    "You can't talk your way out of problems you behave yourself into!"
     
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