If I Could, Then You Can, Too - Day 60 edt. (Update)

Boom, Shakalaka!

This is it, baby, 2 month behind me. And it feels good. Let me tell you this, it feels good, and you all know it does. Everyone who has won this fight, regardless of the number of days, everyone who won against himself knows how good it feels to win.

Yes, bro, that feeling. And that feeling is what I want to talk about here.

If you have read my original post you know that I strongly proclaim the idea of taking responsibility for your actions. You have to take responsibility for your success. I can't do it. Your neighbour can't do it. Obama can't do it.

You, and only you.

But I want to go a little deeper into this thought. And spoiler alert, you won't find any concrete techniques how to deal with urges or stories about superpowers in this post. There are several success stories out there which describe any of those aspects better than I could ever hope to do. I want to focus about the attitude instead.

Yes, attitude is everything in this challenge. You have to realize this, because otherwise you will always be one step short of winning the battle. Without the right attitude no porn blocker will every stop you. Without the right attitude no girl will ever want to sleep with you, even if you cure your PIED. Without the right attitude no number of days will ever be enough for you. 90 won't be enough. 900 won't be enough. Because NoFap is not about having the right number of days in your PMO counter, NoFap is about developing the right attitude.

Attitude is everything.

And here comes the tricky part. I can't tell you what that attitude is. Because you have to find it yourself. Because everyone has their own unique worldview and set of values which will form this attitude of his. Yes, I can give general advice like "take responsibility for your success" or "enjoy the feeling of overcoming yourself", but these are only words. Even if they are right, these are words that come from a stranger.

It's no easy task. Analyzing yourself, analyzing your situation, understanding what exactly is going on, why you did porn and what you want to achieve by doing NoFap. But if you do that, if you find the answers to all those questions, you have done it, my friend. You have developed the right attitude, you have beaten this game, bro.

Cheers, everyone!

I believe in you!

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Hell yeah!!!

30 days clean, one whole month, baby!! Even being an "experienced" fapstronaut and relapser, I still feel like having achieved something awesome today. I used to relapse every 2-3 days, couldn't reach double digits and just felt like shit.

So for anyone who is below this magical number, but wants to reach it, I give you this advice.

Man up! Stop bitching around! Stop hiding behind your fears or your fetishes or your anything. There is no one who can walk this road for you instead, no one who can fight the urges for you. This is a great community and a many great people are here, who can help you and inspire and give comfort, but in the end they can't fight the war for you.

You have to take responsibility for your success.

There is no other way. Gather all your willpower and close that porn tab you have opened. Delete your porn collection. Take cold showers, work out, ask that girl out, do stuff, man, do it!!!

I can't press this part enough. Installing blockers is great, deleting porn collections is great, but it will never be enough if you don't man up enough to stop f*cking fapping to pixels. Take responsibility for your actions. And then you will succeed.

Just like I did.

Because If I could, then you sure as f*ck, can, too.

Skinny

 

@jamesrobert Totally! I have no desire to be looking at this post of mine in a month and be ashamed of myself. We will do this!!