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Can't stop porn and masturbation

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by hoagmaster5000, Nov 27, 2015.

  1. hoagmaster5000

    hoagmaster5000 New Fapstronaut

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    Hey,

    I'm a 24 year old guy who struggles with porn and masturbation. I do it pretty much every night and can't stop. People have suggested putting blocks on my computer and leaving my phone out of my room, but that didn't work. I just found a way past the blocks and or went down and got my phone. On the nights when I make the choice not to use porn, I still masturbate with sexual fantasies because the images from porn are still in my mind. Basically, I could get rid of all my electronics and still masturbate.
    I've found myself staying up late at night masturbating even if I'm not even aroused. Its come to the place where I so badly want that "high" that I do it even if I'm tired and just want to sleep. Its like a habit I can't break. To make matters worse, I have a friend who tells me there is nothing wrong with porn and masturbation and that I shouldn't worry about it. Yet, I know its damaging effects. It just makes it harder when one of your best friends tries to convince you that your problem isn't a problem when you know it is.
    Does anybody have any suggestions? Anybody else in a similar situation?

    Thanks,
    Chris
     
  2. Sleep aid

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    were attracted to women, and who doesnt wanna see whats on those videos its mind blowing sexuality and it feels great simulating the video experience via goopy palm smashing on your gobbuh... its almost if not the most fun feeling in the world, right next to driving away from Mcdonalds with your food. you get where im going with this.
    all humans need to eat, just like all humans want and desire orgasm and love... using mcdonalds as the metaphor for masterbation the 2 M'S . that guy going to Mcdonalds every day, twice a day , breakfast meal dinner meal, hes gonna start feeling the effects after a week of using mcdonalds as his means of feeding himself opposed to heathy eating.
    same with jackin the D tuff !! if your blasting a gobbuh in the morning to some wet action then rippin the D at night big D city yes your satisfying your urges, but your doing so unhealthy. after a week of that your gonna be blown out and right when you catch that girl in yoga pants walking past you as u take out the trash with her camel toe showing looking at you your gonna throw that Mcdonalds up right in front of her, and shes gonna run away not wanting to suck your cock.
     
  3. CBRpolo

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    I was in the exact same position where i had so many electronic devices around me it made it nearly impossible to resist. I would relapse over and over again and kick myself every time. So this is what i did....

    I would always PMO using my ipad so at the beginning i would set a password and when i had an urge i would input the password wrong so many times that it would lock for an hour. But after a while this didnt work, so i made the decision to sell my ipad and made it to around 10 - 13 days. But then after that i moved onto my smart phone to watch P and M so after this i sold my phone for a basic phone with no internet and again made it to around the two week mark again. Then i would PMO using the family computer that was downstairs when no one was home and obviously delete the browser history so then i installed a blocker with a password i would never remember so now its impossible to watch P on the computer downstairs. and now my streaks are getting longer and longer, and my binges after a relapse would have been for around 10 days but that just doesn't happen any more.

    What i have done is very extreme but i am just so determined to leave it all behind i know i wont be without a smartphone forever but at the moment this is the best iv felt in a very long time i have cut down my PMO habit drastically and it has been totally worth it i feel so much more grounded and confident at the moment and this is just after around the 10 day mark.

    One thing to consider though even if you install blockers and take these kind of extremes, these actions alone wont kick the habit for you i did think that at first though and it took me a while to realise its your own decisions and mind set that will be the most powerful tool, before you decide to PMO just think in 10 minuets time would it have been worth it i always used to say this to myself and then relapsed and all my anxious feelings and depressive mood set came straight back.
     
  4. hoagmaster5000

    hoagmaster5000 New Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much for your response. Its refreshing to know that I'm not alone. One thing Ive also struggled with and still do, is the psychological affects of PMO as well as PMO recovery.
    Its hard to convince the brain that sex is good but perverted sex is wrong. It seems like we go from one extreme to the other. I've read many testimonies of people who have restrained from sex for so long that when they eventually got married, they had tremendous shame for having sex with their life-long partner. One common cause are those "no sex before marriage" pledges. People take them at young ages and then they become so good at restraining that they can't enjoy it in its proper context. But on the contrary, I've heard of many people who have had sex in its proper context, the setting of love and intimacy yet they are unable to achieve orgasm with their partner because they've been addicted to PMO for so long. Suddenly their partner just doesn't do what porn does. We need to recover from PMO but do so knowing that its not sex that is wrong, its the context you express it. The problem is that both of the extremes I presented are psychological issues and because I'm not an psychologist, I wouldn't be able to explain why this happens but I do think we need to be careful that we don't shame sex while at the same time we work to overcome PMO.
     

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