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almost 2 years of NoFap

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by qwab123, Apr 12, 2015.

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  1. Apr 12, 2015 #1
    qwab123

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    I am 22 years old male and i haven't touched my dick(except for peeing) in the last 20 months . I didn't do nofap officially in fact i stumbled upon this forum today while seeking help online for quitting cigarettes. I have read a lot of posts and felt the urge to share my experience.
    First of all i quit jerking off to gain control of my life .I was doing it 5-6 times a day ,was unable to focus on academics , lost interest in things like going out with friends, playing sports..pretty much everything that a normal person of my age does. I flunked 2 courses in my 4th semester and decided it was enough just dint masturbate after that. Every time i would have the urge i would force myself to focus on task in hand(usually studying).
    I noticed a lot changes in me although i dint know it was because of nofap . I started finding pursuit of sex too boring instead started focusing on intellectual pursuits . i lost complete interest in the opposite sex in a romantic way . Lot of people have mentioned in this forum how it was much more easier for them to start a conversation with girls but i went from being extremely shy to not giving a fuck about talking to them. In fact i started seeing the value of asceticism. I am sort of a semi hermit now by choice . I don't watch movies or TV use internet rarely , i still smoke though but want to quit. Most of you talk about wanting to experience love and bonding but i think even the so called "true Love" is a myth only person one should love is oneself, one shouldn't have the need for companionship . I have a few friends some of whom are girls every one of them confessed they or have crush on me. but i seriously don't feel anything . Fundamentally there is nothing different between being addicted to porn and seeking solace in the arms of another person . I find true happiness in getting rid of every psychological dependency be it masturbation or seeking love or seeking social approval . These days i spend most of my time studying(i am in grad school) and thinking about life in general
     
    qwab123, Apr 12, 2015
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  2. Apr 12, 2015 #2
    Masquerade

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    I am 19yr old guy..can we be friends.I think ur thoughts harmonise vth mine.
     
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  3. Apr 12, 2015 #3
    Behnam

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    Man i wish i had done what you did, 11 years ago when i was young and by choice. Not now and out of necessity.
     
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  4. Apr 12, 2015 #4
    Surrender

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    We are programmed or made if you will, to have companionship with other people. I think the "Im stronger alone"- can be a defense-mechanism for not letting yourself be vulnerable and real.

    Not saying this is the case, Im just saying that these things exists.

    Bless you man
     
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  5. Apr 13, 2015 #5
    R92B

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    Congrats, that really is some feat. I think a lot of people will strive for the kind of benefits you have experienced; almost a "badass" mentality. Seems like you made Nofap more of a lifestyle than simply a "x number of days" challenge. That's how I've learnt to approach it, having read the perceptions of those who've had success. All the best for the future.
     
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  6. Apr 13, 2015 #6
    Cooldude4

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    great man!! keep it up!!!
     
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  7. Apr 13, 2015 #7
    buzzlightyear

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    I've quitted smoking and by seeing the way you describe your point of view, I'm sure you will succeed. I thank you for sharing this.
     
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  8. Apr 14, 2015 #8
    J92

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    I sympathize and you sound like an INTP like me. Indeed, my longest period of not jerking it was also a period of barely thinking of women at all, and i have largely abandoned the opposite sex for intellectual pursuits for around a year and i have never been happier.
     
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  9. Apr 14, 2015 #9
    Fapsman

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    Thats some run man!
    I believe I have a very addictive personality and have alot of pshycoligical dependancies, would love to hear how you become mentally strong enough not to always seek social acceptance and focus 100% on your life and not the percieved opinion of how you should live your life/how others see you.
     
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  10. Apr 14, 2015 #10
    PotentLife

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    You sound strong about it and gratified in your own way of living. That is important. If you do get into a relationship later on, I imagine it will be all the better because you thoroughly explored the phase you're going through now and came into it out of strength rather than neediness. Congratulations on finding the discipline to abstain from something I usually couldn't go a day without.
     
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  11. Apr 20, 2015 #11
    Seeker19

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    Brother, this is beautiful :)
    I totally agree with you.
    Idk who or what you are, but if you are considering Asceticism now...
    This will benefit you.

    http://www.dlshq.org/download/brahmacharya.pdf

    PM me if you wanna discuss similar stuff.
    All the best :)
     
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  12. Apr 20, 2015 #12
    backonthewagon

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    If you don't mind me asking: How long did you abstain from M before you realised you felt and thought this way? You are where I would like to be in life now.
     
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  13. Apr 27, 2015 #13
    buzzlightyear

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    He said:
    So If you go 20 months clean you'll get there, probably. Don't forget that he did pursue other things which became more valuable and enjoyable than the persuit of sex. I really use this post, I read it from time to time beause I too want to have a similar part of this.

    I hope you'll get a answer from the maker of the post, I just had the urge to interact.
     
    buzzlightyear, Apr 27, 2015
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  14. Apr 27, 2015 #14
    Seeker19

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    Same here. I wanna be like this too.
     
    Seeker19, Apr 27, 2015
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  15. Apr 27, 2015 #15
    backonthewagon

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    I should have engaged brain before replying. I apologise for this.

    I meant to ask how long into the streak the OP was before he came to have the thoughts and feelings he was describing here.

    I hope the OP replies as well. What he has said here is my holy grail.
     
    backonthewagon, Apr 27, 2015
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  16. Apr 27, 2015 #16
    sandeep ch

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    Great self control.are there any affects if I don't masturbate for a long period say 2/3 years.?.can I hold for such longer period .?
     
    sandeep ch, Apr 27, 2015
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  17. Apr 27, 2015 #17
    DannyCool

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    Kinda wondering about that too. I went to the doctor about it and they told me there was no problem at all in doing it. Also Dalai Lama has a friend who has not released sperm in years and years and now he can't release it even when having sex. It just goes straight up his spine. It is just trained that way.
     
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  18. Apr 27, 2015 #18
    DannyCool

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    Response above.
    But ya he has trained his sperm to go the other way. If anyone else has information on this I would be interested.
     
    DannyCool, Apr 27, 2015
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  19. Apr 27, 2015 #19
    Kurapika

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    I haven't masturbated nor had sex until I was 18 and had absolutely no problems as my body released sperms while I was sleeping once every week.
     
    Kurapika, Apr 27, 2015
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  20. Apr 27, 2015 #20
    DannyCool

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    Thanks man. That is helpful. Gives me more confidence.
     
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